The scriptural explanation of the law under which Nephi was acting is laid out in D&C section 98. There are many treasures of knowledge in this section, but the treasure we are studying begins in verse 23, where the Lord says, “Now, I speak unto you concerning your families…” As we shall see, these passages of scripture concern issues of self defense and and the protection of our own lives and our family’s lives, including securing our physical safety, and the safety of our possessions. We begin with the condition, “if men will smite you, or your families.” My opinion is that we are justified in defending ourselves and our families to the best of our abilities at all times, so the word “smite” here implies to me that men have overcome our attempt to defend ourselves and succeeded in doing some sort of violent harm to us or our families. This could include murder, assault, beating, rape, theft, or other violent crimes.
You may disagree with me on the extent one can or should use violence in self-defense, and that is fine, because the main issue which the Lord addresses in these scriptures is not self-defense, but instead he is addressing the topic of revenge. In other words, the condition is that violent harm has been done to you or your family, overcoming any attempts to resist, and the question is, what do you do next in response? And the Lord answers, “if men will smite you, or your families, once, and ye bear it patiently and revile not against them, neither seek revenge, ye shall be rewarded”. The Lord affirms that we should not seek revenge for offenses committed against us, but that we should bear it patiently, and even forgive the enemies who commit such offenses against us. Vengeance is something the Lord reserves for himself, as the Righteous Judge, whose omniscience allows him to know all the circumstances by which men are led to commit such wickedness. “Vengeance is mine; I will repay, saith the Lord.” [Romans 12:19] “But of you it is required to forgive all men.” [D&C 64:10]
There are many scriptures exhorting us to love and forgive our enemies. For example, Romans 12:20-21 tells us, “Therefore if thine enemy hunger, feed him; if he thirst, give him drink: for in so doing thou shalt heap coals of fire on his head. Be not overcome of evil, but overcome evil with good.” And D&C 64:11 says, “Ye ought to say in your hearts—let God judge between me and thee, and reward thee according to thy deeds,” which hearkens back to instances in the Old Testament where people actually speak those words to their enemies (1 Sam 24:12).
But I think the most remarkable condemnation of revenge is the next verse in D&C 98, verse 24, “But if ye bear it not patiently, it shall be accounted unto you as being meted out as a just measure unto you.” This is a truly incredible statement from the Lord. If you are the sort of person who seeks revenge on your offender, then whatever was done to you is accounted (retroactively!) as a just measure for the violence you commit in seeking revenge. We should all ponder on the the implications of this verse, especially when we are feeling grudges and resentment for wrongs committed against us.
I will add my personal opinion again, that this does not mean that justice should not be carried out. We have a justice system which removes the need for retributive violence from the individual and assigns that responsibility to officials who do not have a personal stake in the crime. This allows them to be more fair in their judgments and punishments, and prevents cycles of revenge and retribution which can go on for generations in societies which do not have such an organized system of justice. Indeed, it can even make it easier for us to forgive, if we know that others will take care of seeing that justice is carried out. It is not your responsibility to see justice done for offenses against you, or even to imagine what sort of justice should be done. That is the responsibility of God, or of relatively unbiased people in the civil justice system. You are free to work on personal healing, forgiveness, and even showing mercy to your offenders, knowing that others have the responsibility for doing the justice and punishment. Anyone who escapes civil justice will face the justice of God when all men are judged according to their works.
Returning to D&C 98, consider again verse 23. We are to bear the first offense patiently, not even reviling in words against them. The word “revile” means “to criticize in an abusive or angrily insulting manner.” Bearing it patiently does not imply keeping silent. It seems just to me to declare the crime, especially to the offender himself. Many non-violent offenses cause lasting harm and grudges without the offender even being aware that he has said or done something wrong. Therefore we should declare when we have been offended rather that harboring silent grudges, and give the offender a chance to consider that someone has been offended by his actions. But if they do not repent, we should bear it patiently, forgive, and in the case of non-violent offenses, even consider whether we are too eager in taking offense. To angrily revile would risk starting a cycle of insults and accusations back and forth which will add bitterness, resentment, and other psychological damage on top of the damage from the initial crime.
Verse 23 contains the word “once.” In 25 and 26, we see that we should also bear the second and the third offense patiently, without reviling. “And again, if your enemy shall smite you the second time, and you revile not against your enemy, and bear it patiently, your reward shall be an hundred-fold. And again, if he shall smite you the third time, and ye bear it patiently, your reward shall be doubled unto you four-fold.” That is a lot of rewards. When the Lord says “I will repay,” he means he will recompense those who forgive for the offenses against them, as well as repaying the offender for his crimes. Skipping ahead slightly, in verse 30, we read that if you continue to spare your enemy when he commits further offenses, God says, “And then if thou wilt spare him, thou shalt be rewarded for thy righteousness; and also thy children and thy children’s children unto the third and fourth generation.” The only other scripture I can think of which promises such great rewards is the promise for paying tithing in Malachi 3. “Bring ye all the tithes into the storehouse, that there may be meat in mine house, and prove me now herewith, saith the Lord of hosts, if I will not open you the windows of heaven, and pour you out a blessing, that there shall not be room enough to receive it.” If you want to live a blessed life, paying tithing and forgiving others would be very good things to do.
But something different happens after the third offense in D&C 98. Verses 27-28 say, “And these three testimonies shall stand against your enemy if he repent not, and shall not be blotted out. And now, verily I say unto you, if that enemy shall escape my vengeance, that he be not brought into judgment before me, then ye shall see to it that ye warn him in my name, that he come no more upon you, neither upon your family, even your children’s children unto the third and fourth generation.” After three offenses, if he has not been punished by the Lord (or by the justice system), you are justified in warning your enemy that you will be patient no longer. Of course this would be in a non-reviling, non-angry, non-insulting manner. And after all that, the Lord will apparently help us against our enemy, if he continues to offend.
You may disagree with me on the extent one can or should use violence in self-defense, and that is fine, because the main issue which the Lord addresses in these scriptures is not self-defense, but instead he is addressing the topic of revenge. In other words, the condition is that violent harm has been done to you or your family, overcoming any attempts to resist, and the question is, what do you do next in response? And the Lord answers, “if men will smite you, or your families, once, and ye bear it patiently and revile not against them, neither seek revenge, ye shall be rewarded”. The Lord affirms that we should not seek revenge for offenses committed against us, but that we should bear it patiently, and even forgive the enemies who commit such offenses against us. Vengeance is something the Lord reserves for himself, as the Righteous Judge, whose omniscience allows him to know all the circumstances by which men are led to commit such wickedness. “Vengeance is mine; I will repay, saith the Lord.” [Romans 12:19] “But of you it is required to forgive all men.” [D&C 64:10]
There are many scriptures exhorting us to love and forgive our enemies. For example, Romans 12:20-21 tells us, “Therefore if thine enemy hunger, feed him; if he thirst, give him drink: for in so doing thou shalt heap coals of fire on his head. Be not overcome of evil, but overcome evil with good.” And D&C 64:11 says, “Ye ought to say in your hearts—let God judge between me and thee, and reward thee according to thy deeds,” which hearkens back to instances in the Old Testament where people actually speak those words to their enemies (1 Sam 24:12).
But I think the most remarkable condemnation of revenge is the next verse in D&C 98, verse 24, “But if ye bear it not patiently, it shall be accounted unto you as being meted out as a just measure unto you.” This is a truly incredible statement from the Lord. If you are the sort of person who seeks revenge on your offender, then whatever was done to you is accounted (retroactively!) as a just measure for the violence you commit in seeking revenge. We should all ponder on the the implications of this verse, especially when we are feeling grudges and resentment for wrongs committed against us.
I will add my personal opinion again, that this does not mean that justice should not be carried out. We have a justice system which removes the need for retributive violence from the individual and assigns that responsibility to officials who do not have a personal stake in the crime. This allows them to be more fair in their judgments and punishments, and prevents cycles of revenge and retribution which can go on for generations in societies which do not have such an organized system of justice. Indeed, it can even make it easier for us to forgive, if we know that others will take care of seeing that justice is carried out. It is not your responsibility to see justice done for offenses against you, or even to imagine what sort of justice should be done. That is the responsibility of God, or of relatively unbiased people in the civil justice system. You are free to work on personal healing, forgiveness, and even showing mercy to your offenders, knowing that others have the responsibility for doing the justice and punishment. Anyone who escapes civil justice will face the justice of God when all men are judged according to their works.
Returning to D&C 98, consider again verse 23. We are to bear the first offense patiently, not even reviling in words against them. The word “revile” means “to criticize in an abusive or angrily insulting manner.” Bearing it patiently does not imply keeping silent. It seems just to me to declare the crime, especially to the offender himself. Many non-violent offenses cause lasting harm and grudges without the offender even being aware that he has said or done something wrong. Therefore we should declare when we have been offended rather that harboring silent grudges, and give the offender a chance to consider that someone has been offended by his actions. But if they do not repent, we should bear it patiently, forgive, and in the case of non-violent offenses, even consider whether we are too eager in taking offense. To angrily revile would risk starting a cycle of insults and accusations back and forth which will add bitterness, resentment, and other psychological damage on top of the damage from the initial crime.
Verse 23 contains the word “once.” In 25 and 26, we see that we should also bear the second and the third offense patiently, without reviling. “And again, if your enemy shall smite you the second time, and you revile not against your enemy, and bear it patiently, your reward shall be an hundred-fold. And again, if he shall smite you the third time, and ye bear it patiently, your reward shall be doubled unto you four-fold.” That is a lot of rewards. When the Lord says “I will repay,” he means he will recompense those who forgive for the offenses against them, as well as repaying the offender for his crimes. Skipping ahead slightly, in verse 30, we read that if you continue to spare your enemy when he commits further offenses, God says, “And then if thou wilt spare him, thou shalt be rewarded for thy righteousness; and also thy children and thy children’s children unto the third and fourth generation.” The only other scripture I can think of which promises such great rewards is the promise for paying tithing in Malachi 3. “Bring ye all the tithes into the storehouse, that there may be meat in mine house, and prove me now herewith, saith the Lord of hosts, if I will not open you the windows of heaven, and pour you out a blessing, that there shall not be room enough to receive it.” If you want to live a blessed life, paying tithing and forgiving others would be very good things to do.
But something different happens after the third offense in D&C 98. Verses 27-28 say, “And these three testimonies shall stand against your enemy if he repent not, and shall not be blotted out. And now, verily I say unto you, if that enemy shall escape my vengeance, that he be not brought into judgment before me, then ye shall see to it that ye warn him in my name, that he come no more upon you, neither upon your family, even your children’s children unto the third and fourth generation.” After three offenses, if he has not been punished by the Lord (or by the justice system), you are justified in warning your enemy that you will be patient no longer. Of course this would be in a non-reviling, non-angry, non-insulting manner. And after all that, the Lord will apparently help us against our enemy, if he continues to offend.
Verse 29 reads, “And then, if he shall come upon you or your children, or your children’s children unto the third and fourth generation, I have delivered thine enemy into thine hands.” This is a direct link to the story of Nephi and Laban. Consider 1 Nephi 4:11, “And the Spirit said unto me again: Behold the Lord hath delivered him into thy hands. Yea, and I also knew that he had sought to take away mine own life; yea, and he would not hearken unto the commandments of the Lord; and he also had taken away our property.” The words “delivered him into thy hands” are used in both of these scriptures, showing that Nephi was aware of the Lord’s standard for justice. Nephi even counts three offenses in this verse. Laban sought to kill him. Actually he did that twice, having tried to kill his brothers (his family) as well. Laban did not hearken to the commandments of the Lord. This could imply that Nephi delivered a warning to Laban at some point. And Laban stole all his treasures. Of course, Nephi is also following the voice of the Spirit, just as Brother Renlund preaches in the talk referenced earlier. “And it came to pass that the Spirit said unto me again: Slay him, for the Lord hath delivered him into thy hands.” [1 Nephi 4:12]
In such cases, after three offenses, we have the choice to spare our enemy and receive the great blessings mentioned in verse 30, or to take justice into our own hands and reward our enemy according to his works, as stated in verse 31. “Nevertheless, thine enemy is in thine hands; and if thou rewardest him according to his works thou art justified; if he has sought thy life, and thy life is endangered by him, thine enemy is in thine hands and thou art justified.” This is the Lord’s standard for justice, and though it may be a hard saying, it does justify killing in self-defense, if your life or your families lives have been endangered.
But if we have any doubt that Nephi was following the Lord’s standard of justice, as set forth in D&C 98, then just read the next verse (D&C 98:32) “Behold, this is the law I gave unto my servant Nephi.” How could the Lord make this any more obvious? I think D&C 98 is a completely satisfactory explanation of the justice in the episode of Nephi and Laban.
The only thing I find slightly unsatisfactory, is that Nephi relates only two actual incidents of violence from Laban. The first incident is in 1 Nephi chapter 3, verses 11-14, when he tries to kill Nephi’s brother Laman. The second incident is in chapter 3, verses 22-27, when Laban tries to kill Nephi and all his brothers and steals their stuff. I usually count two attempted murders and one theft to get three offenses, but Nephi really only relates two incidences.
One possible way to harmonize this, is to consider another time in the Book of Mormon, where other Nephites speak of this same law and standard of justice. In Alma 43:46, this same standard of justice is briefly stated. “For the Lord had said unto them, and also unto their fathers, that: Inasmuch as ye are not guilty of the first offense, neither the second, ye shall not suffer yourselves to be slain by the hands of your enemies.” This scriptures shows that this law was well known among the Nephites and taught from generation to generation. But it is possible that the version given to Nephi and the Nephites was a “two strikes and you are out of patience” instead of the “three strikes” given in D&C 98. However you interpret the events, it is clear that Nephi had lived up to the Lord’s standard of justice in slaying Laban.
If you continue reading D&C 98, verses 33-38 teach that this same standard of justice applies between nations, just as it applies between individuals. We should read again the remarkable statement in verse 24, and ponder about what the Lord thinks of the wars of retribution our own nation has recently waged against its enemies. Indeed, we are told that we should not go out to battle until the Lord commands it, and if we obey his commands, the Lord will fight our battles. [D&C 98:36-37, D&C 105:14]
The rest of section 98 repeats this standard of justice a third time, this time adding what we should do if the enemy repents of his trespass, which is to forgive him each time (until seventy times seven).
When I finally found this explanation in D&C 98 and the clear declarations from the Lord that this applies directly to Nephi, frankly I was amazed that church members, including myself, have agonized for so long, and continue to agonize, over the justice of Nephi killing Laban. And then I wonder how many other great truths are clearly stated in the scriptures, but our minds are too darkened to see them?
